Do you ever find yourself repeatedly pursuing relationships and unattainable beauty standardsin search of happiness? We often tell ourselves things like:
“I won’t be happy until….
- I meet the right man.
- I can travel the world
- I have a higher paying job.
- I lose a few pounds.
- My hair is perfect.
- My skin is flawless.
Do these thoughts sound familiar to you?
We chase these dreams, but often, the harder we chase, the more elusive they seem to become. True happiness comes from within. Before we ok can attract what we desire from others, we must first give it to ourselves. Many of us have experienced these feelings.
I understand this journey all too well. It took me until I was 70 years old to find happiness within myself. Throughout my life, I was in a constant search for external validation and happiness. I thought I would find it in relationships, in achieving the perfect appearance, and in the approval and recognition of others. But no matter how much I achieved or how hard I tried, true happiness always seemed just out of reach.
Then, I discovered my unique blossom code through meditation. This was a turning point in my life. Meditation taught me who I truly am, what I genuinely want in life, and how to accept and love myself. It helped me understand what is right for me and what is not. Through this practice, I was able to let go of fear, guilt, and shame, and to forgive myself for the mistakes I made along the way. I learned to speak my truth and to stop replaying the same old stories in my head.
I finally understood that no other person, or perfect appearance could make me happy. I had to find my own happiness within. I learned to love myself enough to let go of people and things that no longer served my higher good. This realization was incredibly liberating. With the time I have left on this planet, I want to help others, especially women, learn that life is what we make of it and that we are responsible for our own joy.
Finding happiness isn’t about another person; it’s already within us. We just need to give ourselves a chance to sit in silence and discover it. Getting quiet helps us find clearer answers and to get in touch with our higher selves….. The person that we strive to be in the future. Contentment and happiness can be found right where we are, regardless of our circumstances.
I consider myself a recovering people pleaser. I spent years walking on eggshells and trying to become what others wanted me to be.
As I continue on this spiritual path of self-discovery and self-love, I realize how important it is to teach this to others. Everything we need already exists within us. No matter where you are, what you’re doing, or your situation in life, you have the power to align your heart, mind, and spirit.
From the time I was a kid, I craved the attention of my parents and to be seen. I continued this craving with the many men I loved. But, I finally realized that I can give myself everything I want without compromising who I am.
Finding joy in the little things has been a crucial part of my journey—walking in nature, going to the beach, swimming, nurturing my plants and my pets and sitting in silence. I learned to just be instead of always having to be doing something. These simple pleasures have brought me immense happiness. Meditation has taught me that the greatest gift in life is being present in the moment, to notice what’s right in front of me, that I can write my own story and create a new reality that aligns with my heart.
Let me share more about how this transformation happened for me, and how it can happen for you too.
The Early Years: Searching for External Validation
In my younger years, I was always looking for validation outside of myself. I believed that my worth was tied to how others perceived me. I remember feeling a constant need to please my parents and siblings. I thought that if I could make them happy, I would be happy too. This pattern continued into my adult life, where I sought validation from romantic partners and society.
I would look in the mirror and see a list of things that needed to be improved. My body needed to be more toned, my hair more perfect, my face free of wrinkles. I believed that achieving these external goals would lead to happiness. But every time I reached one of these goals, the happiness was fleeting. There was always something else to chase, something else to improve.
If any of this resonates with you, please feel free to contact me for meditation and connection.
Stay tuned for part two!